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Perfectionism is often an excuse for procrastination – Paul Graham

By 6th June 2018 No Comments

How many times have you had conversations with friends or family about what their plans are for tomorrow, next week, next year and tomorrow, next week or next year never seems to come? More importantly, have you ever found yourself doing this? How often do you say ‘I’ll start eating healthily next week’, ‘I’ll start doing more exercise once the weather is better’, ‘I’ll go to University once I have more time’, ‘I’ll apply for a new job at the end of the year’, ‘I’ll concentrate on myself when the kids have grown up’.

We will always be able to find a reason to put off that job, to delay that diet, to avoid spending time focussing on our self. There will always be something more important, something more immediate to focus on and we will always find many justifications for putting things off and waiting until next month or next year because today is not a good day to start. However, there is also a very good reason why today, is exactly the day that you should start. We are all very good at putting off the cleaning or the washing or booking to have the car serviced but when it comes to you and your life, the things that are going to make you happy, satisfied and fulfilled and be the best person that you can be then today, is the best day to start.

Sometimes, our need for perfection, our need to get things exactly right first time is what stops us from attempting to do things in the first place. It might be fear of failure, it could be fear of change, or it could be the unfamiliarity of pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, wondering what could happen, worrying what people will think or how things will be different. Sometimes it’s easy to stick with what we know, familiarity is comfortable and sometimes being comfortable is the easiest place to hide. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, doing that thing that you’ve wanted to for weeks, months, years will make you feel deeply content, satisfied and fulfilled. That’s what we all deserve, right? A life where we feel genuinely content, satisfied and fulfilled. Your mind will always try to hold you back, don’t let it.

Easier said than done, you may be thinking but what is it that’s really stopping you? Our mind-set can be changed, our unhelpful thoughts can be managed, our confidence can be built, you can always find time and you don’t need to do it alone. Find someone who can help you to develop the strengths, skills, techniques and confidence to break down that goal so that you can achieve whatever it is that you’ve always thought about doing because it may well keep cropping back up for years to come.

It’s time to start investing in yourself and to focus on all the reasons why you should do something, rather than the reason’s you can’t. Whenever your mind begins making excuses, whenever you start to procrastinate, remember that time is precious and a year from now you will wish you had started today.

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